Relationships take most of our energy and mental space. When problems arise, we often start questioning everything. A misunderstanding or conflict with someone we love can feel disastrous. It makes us believe that life is suddenly unbalanced. But what if I told you it’s actually the opposite?
As humans, we go through daily life shaped by limiting beliefs, social media, and even fantasy movies that create a false image of how life should look like. These influences often distract us from what real life truly is and from why we are here on Earth in the first place.
Here is something that may sound surprising, and even shocking to some: we are not here on Earth primarily to find love, have children, or create perfect relationships with family and friends. While these experiences are meaningful, they are not the main purpose of life.
We are here so our souls can evolve. The true goal of life is to discover our path, grow through experiences, and expand our awareness. When we align with our path, we naturally attract meaningful and healthy relationships. But those relationships are not the destination,they are part of the journey.
So the question becomes: if relationships are not the main reason we are here, why are they such a powerful part of our lives?
In this blog we will talk about :
Summary
Why Do Relationships Exist in Life?
Relationships exist to teach us what we need to learn in this life. They are powerful guides that challenge us, show our inner wounds and strengths, and push our souls toward growth and evolution.
Many of us if not most carry childhood wounds. Our parents often play a major role in the emotional patterns we struggle with today. This may sound dramatic, but if we pause and reflect, we can see how many disappointments and struggles could have been avoided if we had grown up in emotionally safe and healthy environments.
This is not about blaming our parents. Rather, it leads us to an important question: if our purpose in life were to have perfect relationships, why would we be born into families that are emotionally unhealthy or unsafe?
This belief that life is meant to be perfect keeps many people trapped in cycles of pain. They spend years blaming their parents, repeating the same patterns, and living in a victim mindset. When perfection becomes the goal, people feel as though something was taken from them, and they continue reliving the same wounds instead of healing them.
The truth is, life is not about perfection it is about awareness, growth, and transformation.
Before We Were Born: Where Did It All Start?
Before we were born we had a deal that when we get down on earth we will learn such lessons, for example some people choose to have an available parents others attached and controlling and so on, i am talking just about parents till now bc we have the first contact with them and they prepare us for life, in this period of our childhood we are just learning it we are not grown enough to take responsibility of our life.
So let’s take an example of what it is like to choose our life lesson before birth and even the kind of family we were born in.
Life as a School
I often compare life to school. Before entering high school or university, we choose the subjects or fields we want to study, and most of the time, we choose what we already feel good at or interested in.
The difference between life and school is awareness. At school, we clearly remember that we made those choices. So when things become difficult, we understand that we simply need to learn more, work harder, and stay committed. We don’t see challenges as punishment,we see them as part of the learning process. We take responsibility for our choices because we want to succeed.
But When it comes to life, we don’t remember our choices. What we remember is our first contact with our parents as children. This is where many people get stuck placing all responsibility on their parents so they don’t have to do the inner work or find their own path.
The real challenge of life is not about blame, but about awareness. It is about two essential things:
first, remembering where you came from and the deeper choice your soul made.
And second, finding your way on Earth aligning with the right path and eventually returning to your true source.
Life as a Video Game
Let me give you another example. Imagine that life is a game. Before you start playing, you choose the game you want to experience. You choose the place, the language, the color of your skin and hair, and even the people you will play with. You have one goal in mind: to win the game by passing all the levels, overcoming obstacles, and reaching the final stage.
Then, you press play.
The character inside the game is not truly you—it is an avatar that leads you toward your goal. You know that the people inside the game are not real in the same way you are. When the character gets hurt or faces challenges, you move forward without overthinking. Sometimes, you even have to start over because the path or decision you chose was not the right one and that’s okay.
You don’t watch the time, blame others, or feel guilty. You simply play, learn, and enjoy the experience. Even when you fail, you become more curious and motivated to try again.
Now imagine this same life and ask yourself: why does it often feel heavy instead of exciting or motivating?
I’ll tell you why.
Imagine playing a game where you choose everything in advance, just like we described earlier but this time, there are no obstacles, no failures,and no restarts. From the very beginning, you already know the outcome and how to win 100%.
Now tell me
Would that game still be fun? Would you even want to play it again?
Think of that!. What makes the game meaningful is the challenge you face.
What truly makes life feel harder is not the obstacles themselves, but fear, guilt, shame, and doubt. Feeling limited by time, fearing pain, and resisting change turn the journey into something heavy instead of adventurous. When we forget that challenges are part of the design, we lose curiosity and joy.
What Is the Law of Attraction?
The law of attraction says that you attract what you are. This made me think: if I am a good person, I never hurt anyone, and I am always helping and loving others. Yet, I keep attracting completely opposite kinds of people. Does that mean I am a bad person?!
Then I discovered that we attract what we need in order to heal through others—the thoughts stored in our subconscious mind and the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
For example, if you feel unworthy, you will attract people who make you feel unworthy until you recognize your true value. If you struggle with attachment, you may attract emotionally avoidant people. And if you live in fear or feel afraid to move forward, you will attract situations and circumstances that force you to face those fears.
So I started wondering: if I have an anxious or attachment-loving style, why don’t I attract someone with the same attachment style, someone who understands me so life can feel easier? Why do I keep attracting avoidant people who run when things get serious?
Here’s why: if you were to attract someone with the exact same wounds and emotional reactions, they wouldn’t challenge you to heal or grow. You would stay comfortable, repeating the same patterns, instead of becoming the best version of yourself.
The avoidant partner often appears not to hurt you, but to mirror what still needs healing within you.
And if you overgive, you will often attract people who take advantage of you. This happens because the energy is unbalanced, and life responds by pushing you to learn how to give and receive equally. This is one of the fundamental laws of life.
Life works like a magnet, you attract the opposite not to punish you, but to guide you back to balance and alignment with your true path.
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Why We Get Hurt Most by the People We Love The Most ?
If We Don’t Love Them, They Won’t Hurt Us
Most of the time, we get hurt by the people we love and trust the most. It can feel shocking, because all we did was love them and wish them well. But if you look closer, you’ll see that we often ignore our own needs without even realizing it. We give beyond our capacity to keep the relationship alive, believing that this is what love means.
Subconsciously, we hope things will get better, trying to fix or help the other person. And when things go wrong, we feel deeply disappointed realizing that we have spent so much time and energy, often at the cost of our own well-being.
Yes, this feels unfair and painful, but that is the law of life. What we often think of as love, it’s constant self-sacrifice may come from childhood beliefs or attachment to the situation, coupled with a fear of change. There may be love there, because love means not wanting to hurt anyone and caring deeply. But true love goes beyond attachment: it is about wishing people well while also moving on and honoring your own needs.
Before Birth, We Agree to Meet Those Who Trigger Our Healing
That was our decision before birth to meet our higher self and experience the lessons our soul chose to learn. If we don’t learn a lesson in life, we tend to attract the same people and situations repeatedly, pushing us to heal and grow until we finally understand the message. Once we integrate that lesson, we start attracting people who align with our new, healed version of ourselves.
At this point, you might think: “So, life is all about suffering and pain! what about joy and happiness?”
The truth is, after healing, everything changes. You begin to attract your soul people, those who resonate with your healed energy, support your growth, and guide you toward your higher self as your soul intended.
It is in this space that you find true relationships, joy, abundance, and even the family or connections your soul promised you.
Life then becomes a journey of alignment, fulfillment, and meaningful connection.
The key here is consciousness. Once you are aware of who you are, you will never suffer. Believe me, suffering comes when you are far from who you are.
Conclusion
I believe that a perfect life is possible, but it all begins within. This is why healing and self-understanding are the keys to living fully.
When you heal yourself first and align consciously with your true self, you naturally attract the people, experiences, and opportunities that resonate with your energy. In this way, you don’t just attract what you are unconsciously, you attract what you truly are in a conscious and intentional way.
Have you experienced a similar situation? What changes did you notice in your mindset, emotions, or relationships?
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